My family sees me as a workaholic who has no time for relationships. From time to time my mother makes hints about some good, attractive man she has heard of, but that's all.
Sounds like me. No relationship ever And few And small friend circle.I'm sure my family suspects something is up. But anything related to sex and relationships was taboo to discuss. I am even unsure about my own brother's orientation. Neither of us have had a romantic or sexual relationship (as far as I know). Neither of my parents has ever talked to me about sex or dating or asked if I was seeing anyone.
I have the worst problems with co-workers asking about my personal life. I am a severe loner. So I have to deflect the fact I have no friends and never had a relationship.
Once a colleague of several jobs back told me she assumed I was gay. I asked her why she thought that. Her reply: "I never see you a girlfriend, and you never talk about a girlfriend." I asked her how often she had seen me with a boyfriend. That's when she realised it would be a bit weird to assume homosexuality, yet asexuality (or anything else) never was addressed.Very interesting that nobody has used the "I'm asexual" excuse. I had been asked a lot of times: Why you have never dated any girls. I mean... 34 years without dating a single human is NOTICEABLE. I had to lie about it by saying that I'm asexual. My sister has joked more than one time (several times) that my dog was my boyfriend, she could be any more right.
Now at age 34 to 37, I have my first human "relationship" , me wichout looking for a human lover, made a friend fall inlove with me. Now we are "gay lovers" at least from his point of view and from anyone point of view in the outside. Now I can claim to be gay as an excuse for why I don't date girls or have children. It is quite convenient.
Just like I say, I'm too busy.I'm busy with other things, i tell them I have other things i'd rather do with my time than get married. Which is true, and i use my time for other pursuits that i couldn't do being married.